At its heart, femme flagging takes a technique used to decorate the body for public consumption and subverts it. So, yes, we need a way to flag “consent always” and that stands for “ask my consent always and I will always ask yours”. Because flagging itself is sometimes assumed to be consent just like the length of my skirt and the fact that I accidentally caught someone’s glance across a crowded dance floor are assumed to be consent. Because the femme body is simultaneously eroticized and made invisible in queer communities. It is a radical, brave act to name my desires on my hands and simultaneously signal that these desires are not open invitations.
Borrowing/adapting from Opinicus Rampant’s gender/body neutral hanky code: http://flaggingopinicusrampant.wordpress.com/about/
“Flagging is not consent.” Flagging means being comfortable with “being propositioned, being rejected, and having the capacity to reject.”